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16 things you learn as an adoptive family

16 things you learn as an adoptive family

FOX Or the email, in some cases, when you first hear about the existence of a child that has been matched to your family. ABC A real parent changes diapers and catches puke with her hands and helps with homework and worries about her kid every day. A real parent keeps their child’s best interest […]

What language should kids use when referring to Black people?

What language should kids use when referring to Black people?

I recently got an email asking about how what words children should use when describing someone who is Black, and I thought it was a great question. With her permission I’m sharing it here. Dear Kristen,  I recently heard my (white) 4th-grade son refer to another kid from a soccer team as the “African” kid. […]

What I want you to know about my abusive relationship

What I want you to know about my abusive relationship

Being in an abusive relationship is one thing, leaving an abusive relationship is another….and having that abuse escalate after leaving is hell. I was with a controlling, verbally and emotionally abusive man for 12 years. I knew he was abusive, but I loved him. So I stayed. Then I found something that I loved even more […]

#TBT: The celebration of color

#TBT: The celebration of color

A couple of you suggested I just boycot the color thing, which would be a perfectly sane thing for a mother of four with intact boundaries to do.  However, a) I have no boundaries and an instense need to follow the rules and be liked by my son’s teacher, and b) Jafta is anxious about doing […]

On not “firepitting” our marriage (or our children)

On not “firepitting” our marriage (or our children)

It’s one of those things that a lot of people do . . . that tendency to live your best life when others are around. A prime example of this is our backyard firepit. We pull it out almost every time we have guests over. We love sitting around it, listening to music, talking, or […]

25 Conversation Starters for the Car

25 Conversation Starters for the Car

2. If you could have dinner with any person from history, who would you choose? 3. What makes someone kind? How could you be kinder this year? 4. If you could solve one problem in the world, what would it be? 5. If you had to live on a deserted island with only one book, […]

How to Engage Your Kids on the Ride Home From School

How to Engage Your Kids on the Ride Home From School

I’ve been trying to be intentional about using our car ride home from school as a time to reconnect with the kids and get information about their day. I like the car time for a few reasons. For one, I have a captive audience. There are no distractions – there is nothing else they are […]

That's what SHE said: kids ruining marriage, the ills of homework, giving crap to the poor, Africa and Ebola paranoia, and more . . .

That’s what SHE said: kids ruining marriage, the ills of homework, giving crap to the poor, Africa and Ebola paranoia, and more . . .

That’s what SHE said: kids ruining marriage, the ills of homework, giving crap to the poor, Africa and Ebola paranoia, and more . . . 2014-10-19T14:10:00-07:00 lunareece that’s what she said|

Nine steps for avoiding racist costumes at Halloween

Nine steps for avoiding racist costumes at Halloween

2. Do not wear racist costumes. This one should go without saying: If you don’t want to be racist this Halloween, don’t wear racist costumes. 3. It’s okay to dress up as a person whose race is different from your own. 4. Let your child’s interest determine their costume. 5. Say no to blackface. 6. […]

#TBT: Demolition mom

#TBT: Demolition mom

On Thursdays, I’m posting a favorite from the archives. This was from July, 2010. Our family sleeping arrangements are endlessly on my nerves, because they aren’t exactly conducive to sleep, and because having a kid or two n the bedroom is not  leaving us the space for that little activity that got us into this […]